Does higher education spoil us?

It is a common misconception among less educated and culturally indoctrinated people among developing and low developed countries that education spoils youth. I will examine this stereo-typical thinking. If you ask me the same to me I will say it does not spoil majority. I deliberately have used word majority instead of “all”. Those who get spoiled it’s mainly their upbringing and they way they are raised and exposed to society.

Let’s move on to topic, the simple reason is that education brings enlightenment. With this enlightened  thinking its hard to fit into stereotypical thinking of society. We become aware of the wrong cultural, religious, socio-religious practices. We start protesting,rebelling against them or in the least capacity we start isolating ourselves because we cannot fit into thinking paradigm of society. The elders in the society see this as a sign of rebelling and they get the impression that youth is being spoiled.

With time many of these youngsters compromise to fit into society. Other go on with enlightenment and keep suffering, as most of them grow up they start losing hope and become a part of Stereotypical thinking. The remaining either keep revolting or silently watch. The rebel of generation generate leaders, watcher become followers. Rest keeps resisting the change. Any way this is a separate topic in itself. Let me come to the point, let me quote a simple example, many of youngster thinks that taking dowry is wrong. Do you know how many of theses youngster do no take dowry  while marrying, you can well understand  my point. Majority of them become the part of system.

So in conclusion I would say education does not spoil youth, it’s the enlightenment of knowledge which make youth the way they talk and behave in society. But yes elder you should worry not because many of them will join you soon or later and will become part of machinery and will lead the life, the way you lead. They will become stereotypic for next generation. But to add little to your worries, many of them will carry the legacy of change of society and will fight against your stereo-odds.


Personal values can solve many ethical dilemmas

I believe that establishing personal values and prioritizing them can solve many dilemmas for us. Every day we are faced with certain dilemmas, with or without consciousness we make such decisions based upon our personal values and mostly we do not give second thought.  I will try to explain my point thorough a small incident then I will conclude my thought.

Recently I became vegetarian, while on dinner I asked my friend about vegetarian options. He deliberately told me a non-veg dish as vegetarian. I put it in my plate, as soon as I started eating I realized it was meat. It was against my vow to be a vegetarian, for a second I was faced a dilemma to eat it or not. The second thought came to my mind that now if I don’t eat dish this food was wasted and will go to  waste. I could have thrown this food and could have taken other vegetarian dish but I thought of those millions people who do not get any food to eat. If I have wasted food I would have felt more guilty then eating it.

Fighting against global hunger is my personal value, which is above anything. Although protesting against animal cruelty was my value but I already had prioritized fighting against global hunger as my primary value. Although I did not felt happy for eating non vegetarian but I did not felt guilty of wasting food.

Now I’ll examine the lie of my friend on ethical grounds. As I was a new vegetarian and previously I had been a hardcore meat eater. My friend thought that I should eat meat some meat to provide some protein to my body. He did it out of compassion otherwise he had nothing to do with me or my dietary requirement. He had prioritized compassion than speaking truth. Although I did not felt happy with his this act but neither did I felt angry because I could understand his kind motive. If I was in his shoes I would have prioritize to speak truth but I again say its our personal choice and I should not make judgement on him.

All I want to say is that sometime we should sit down and write down or remind ourself personal values and prioritize them. For example once I decided that helping others will be my prime value. Speaking truth is also my basic value but it happened many times that I had to lie to help others. I did not mean that I had been telling on major issue but mostly on smaller issues and I decided it on situational basis. Based on my personal experience I would suggest that sitting down and writing few personal values is a very help activity and solves many problems.

Little appreciation can mean a lot

I was in this pub, a young man was singing. The people in pub were talking loudly and no one was paying attention to this young artist who was supporting a renowned band of Nottingham. While buying a drink from the bar, a song hit my hear ear and the lyrics sounded very intelligent.
I am a sort of person who appreciate the new artists, less famous artists and street buskers. After his performance, I went up to him and appreciated his talent and asked about YouTube channel. This young artist became very happy and with a sad voice he said “I thought no body was listening”. I had to lie a bit and I told him that I was listening, although I wasn’t paying much attention due to noise in the pub. He grabbed a CD of his songs and handed over to me for free.
After coming I listened to some of his song again in a quite environment. I really liked some of his song and could see his talent. I concluded that he was playing in a wrong environment and maybe in a wrong group of people or maybe he wasn’t able to capture the attention of audience.
Although I had to lie a bit but little words of appreciation does not costed me anything rather I felt happy that I was able to contribute to someone’s motivation. Appreciation can make a big difference. If we start incorporating words of appreciation and compassion in our daily routine then we can make some real change to someone. Just imagine how many young people get dishearten from our cold behaviours and words. Everyone can worship rising sun but we forget to celebrate new moon.

Create your own Mongolian Religion

The phenomenon of picking up of religious teaching and to blend with your own taste has been going on since centuries. This is exactly like going to a buffet and picking up ingredients to create a Mongolian dish of your own taste. Initially this was done by clergy, they used and abused Church to do whatever they want to do. Emergence of religious cults was also a by-product of this thinking.

Now in 21st century we have become smart enough to do this job by ourselves, we don’t need clergy and mullahs to do this job for us. Educated people are leaving clergy and Mullahs devastated but it’s not easy to break free from the web of these spiders. After all no one us bother to go back to scripture by ourselves. All what we do is to listen progressive scholars on contemporary issues and we start picking and choosing from teachings we like and build up a whole Mongolian dish for ourselves. But in the end if this does not work out the whole religion become distasteful. One advantage of Mongolian religion is that people believe whatever they want to believe and still they can be Muslims or Christians or whatever. This point can be understood from following video.

Clergy feel like loosing control over educated people and are worried by this phenomenon. This is a good phenomenon to one extent, people can think, reason and can make their own judgement about religious rituals and scripture. But on the other hand this phenomenon can be equally dangerous. Everyone take on the task of being a scholar or spokes person of God and create an amalgam of religious teachings.

Why not to do so after all religions are open to interpretation and this has been going on centuries. But beware to choose the ingredients you might end up throwing your own master piece into food waste bin. I haven’t concluded anything, I leave it to my blog readers to decide for themselves if creating Mongolian religion is workable and good thing or a mistake.

Mental illnesses and attitude of society

Mental illnesses like psychosis, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder (etc) are not sign of weakness but most them are due to chemical imbalance inside the brain. Sometimes this chemical imbalance can happen without a reason, It’s similar to having an accident and getting physically disabled. So we should be careful how we behave and speak to mentally disabled people.

Following are examples of some of ridiculous thing to say to a person with mental illness:
“Get busy, and distract yourself.”
“Why can’t you work?”
“Stop focusing on the bad stuff, and just start living.”
“Just pray about it.”
“Do you want to get better?””
“get over it”
“You have everything you need to get better.”
“You can snap out of it. Everyone feels this way sometimes.”

Nobody chooses to create chemical imbalance in brain so why to label them crazy, retard and a psycho etc. If it is OK to discriminate, stigmatized and deny opportunities to mentally disabled persons then it should also be the same case with other illnesses diabetes, heart problems, sinusitis etc. Obviously you will appreciate the last one then we should ask one question from ourselves and people around us.

Why it is that we sympathies physical illnesses but stigmatized mental illnesses? Why?