How to grow an EPIC MOUSTACHE

I have often seen people wondering about my Epic Moustache. A very few of them have even asked why and how. In this regard, I have tried to compile few words.

My answer can better be understood keeping in mind the paradigm used by a mad man. The guy who used to walk in the streets of Athens, and use to confront people with difficult questions. The paradigm is in his famous quotation “I cannot teach anybody anything. I can only make them think”. We are lucky that he had some domestic problems with his wife otherwise we would have lost Socrates ūüôā

Now that I must answer those question, the legend tells of about few men and women seeking glory. They had two ways, some choose the easy path and some chosen the roads less traveled.

A. The easy route

B. The difficult route: 

It is to be warned that this route is little bumpy. In literal sense, the female are advised to follow the first route because it is more cute :). However, If they insist on standing on doing something on equal grounds then they may choose something womanly to do i pursuit of following the road less traveled. Maybe they can explore about Marie Curie or Helen Keller. A real womanly thing to do along with child-rearing and breastfeeding (this is to encourage normalization of breastfeeding).

Secret ingredients to Epic Moustache:

1- Right genetics, admit or not, without proper genetics its hard to grow an Epic one. It is to say that most of the time people underestimate/overestimate their genetics. We do not know it until and unless we try to cultivate some glory. I haven’t used the term good genetics, I am merely referring it as¬†‘right genetics’.

2- Now that one has determined he/she has right genetics. The next thing they need to have is to have patience. All too often, in the very start, the feeling to get rid of moustache becomes quite overwhelming. The main thing that count during this phase is patience. The patience against your own criticism and criticism of others. However, as we start seeing some success then we further try to abide by code of manliness. The critics always become silent as always.

3-An individual who is ready to endure some criticism has to take advantage of his/her whereabouts. I, the story teller, had taken fullest advantage of living in Islamic Republic of Pakistan.

In Pakistan beards especially the Epic ones get a lot ¬†more criticism than moustache.¬†It is contrary to teachings of the religion of which most Pakistanis claim to be followers of. I leave it up to ¬†cultural anthropologists to explain it better. We must admit that Muslims are quite paranoid of their own identity, so Epic beards easily get associated with extremist’s mind frame. It is to add here that at the time of Prophet Muhammad (SAW), beard was a fashion that was associated with honor, pride, and manliness (whatever you call it). ¬†In my limited reading I have seen Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and his righteous followers to be very contrary to gender stereotypes. The one best example about it respecting women and their crying out of fear of God and compassion for his followers. Now that I have made my point, I don’t know if it is a manly thing to do or not!¬†Never to forget, Prophet (SAW) himself had beard and Muslims are advised to have beard. Truth must be told!

4- Further, now that one has something to criticize about or is planning to endure some for growing an Epic one. I am not sure what my readers are exactly thinking here. Some of the critics might be thinking why a man preaches what he does not follow. I feel unnecessary to comment on this. The more relevant conversation should related to moustache as a trait of manliness. Now before I talk about art of manliness, I must comment on few operational problems.

5-The final step is to¬†align yourself to face some operational problems (specific to Moustache). It is true that we cannot eat certain type of the foods. This means we have slightly weird eating habits. There is plenty of advice on the internet about “operational issues”.

In the end EPIC moustache has its own advantages and disadvantages. However, it is too soon to utter a word about them!

The code of manliness

“It is not the Epic Moustache outside that counts, it is the Moustache inside.” (rahim rajar, a forged statement).

The code of manliness has to do with habits and skills than genetics and looks. The supreme ingredients of REAL MEN are; courage, honor, integrity, bravery, service and truth etc. A man/woman can always acquire manly/womanly traits through hard work, practice, patience and steadfastness.

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Contract with the Christians of Jerusalem (The Second Caliph, Umar)

“This is the protection which the servant of God, ‘Umar, the Ruler of the Believers has granted to the people of Eiliya [Jerusalem]. The protection is for their lives and properties, their churches and crosses, their sick and healthy and for all their coreligionists. Their churches shall not be used for habitation, nor shall they be demolished, nor shall any injury be done to them or to their compounds, or to their crosses, nor shall their properties be injured in any way. There shall be no compulsion for these people in the matter of religion, nor shall any of them suffer any injury on account of religion… Whatever is written herein is under the covenant of God and the responsibility of His Messenger, of the Caliphs and of the believers, and shall hold good as long as they pay Jizya (the tax for their defense) imposed on them.”

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Six Religions in the twenty-first century by Stanley Thornes

How not to get judged by others

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.

In this article I’ll write few tips on how not to get judged by others. Actually you cannot control thinking of others but you can make following changes in yourself to avoid getting judged.

1) Over-thinking
Remember that you are not the most important person in the world. No one should have the time to make judgement about you, It is more likely that only your ‚Äúfriends‚ÄĚ will make judgement about you the other times you are stuck into over-thinking about what others think.

2) Think who matters and who don’t
If you still think that people make judgement about you then think of the people who matters and who don’t. You should only think of people who matters and don’t let the people who do not matter, ruin “who you are”.

3) Put things into perspective
If you are too anxious about being judged then put yourself into others shoes and see why do you think others would think of you in certain way. If you find doing something odd which is not acceptable according to certain norms of society then re consider you actions. If you find yourself moral and right then do whatever you want to do. Don’t let others ruin a certain aspects of your personality and actions. Giving up and opting certain things is upto you.

5) Be confident in yourself
If you think your certain speech or actions are right then be confident in yourself. When people will find you confident in yourself they will be ready to give up their judgement. Become confident for who you are.

4) Like certain aspect of you
Sometime we can use certain aspect of our personality to make others like us even with being judgemental. If you are compassionate you can use this skill to working in favour of you. Communication skills can also work in your favour.

6) Control your emotions

If you let other give an authority to change your emotions then you are giving them authority to make you feel you are weak and they can take over your nerves. Nothing more pisses off your critics being looking calm and easy-going.

7) Don’t speak or act submissively
People will ride your nerves when they will find you submissive. Try to be assertive in your words and actions, don’t give others authority to tell you what to do when you don’t want them what to do.

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged.¬†For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.¬†Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?¬†How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?¬†You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. (Gospel of Matthew)

Does higher education spoil us?

It is a common misconception among less educated and culturally indoctrinated people among developing and low developed countries that education spoils youth. I will examine this stereo-typical thinking. If you ask me the same to me I will say it does not spoil majority. I deliberately have used word majority instead of “all”. Those who get spoiled it’s mainly their upbringing and they way they are raised and exposed to society.

Let’s move on to topic, the simple reason is that education brings enlightenment. With this enlightened ¬†thinking its hard to fit into stereotypical thinking of society. We become aware of the wrong cultural, religious, socio-religious practices. We start protesting,rebelling against them or in the least capacity we start isolating ourselves because we cannot fit into thinking paradigm of society. The elders in the society see this as a sign of rebelling and they get the impression that youth is being spoiled.

With time many of these youngsters compromise to fit into society. Other go on with enlightenment and keep suffering, as most of them grow up they start losing hope and become a part of Stereotypical thinking. The remaining either keep revolting or silently watch. The rebel of generation generate leaders, watcher become followers. Rest keeps resisting the change. Any way this is a separate topic in itself. Let me come to the point, let me quote a simple example, many of youngster thinks that taking dowry is wrong. Do you know how many of theses youngster do no take dowry  while marrying, you can well understand  my point. Majority of them become the part of system.

So in conclusion I would say education does not spoil youth, it’s the enlightenment¬†of knowledge which make youth the way they talk and behave in society. But yes elder you should worry not because many of them will join you soon or later and will become part of machinery and will lead the life, the way you lead. They will become stereotypic¬†for next generation. But to add little to your worries, many of them will carry the legacy of change of society and will fight against your stereo-odds.

Personal values can solve many ethical dilemmas

I believe that establishing personal values and prioritizing them can solve many dilemmas for us. Every day we are faced with certain dilemmas, with or without consciousness we make such decisions based upon our personal values and mostly we do not give second thought.  I will try to explain my point thorough a small incident then I will conclude my thought.

Recently I became vegetarian, while on dinner I asked my friend about vegetarian options. He deliberately told me a non-veg dish as vegetarian. I put it in my plate, as soon as I started eating I realized it was meat. It was against my vow to be a vegetarian, for a second I was faced a dilemma to eat it or not. The second thought came to my mind that now if I don’t eat dish this food was wasted and will go to ¬†waste. I could have thrown this food and could have taken other vegetarian dish but I thought of those millions people who do not get any food to eat. If I have wasted food I would have felt more guilty then eating it.

Fighting against global hunger is my personal value, which is above anything. Although protesting against animal cruelty was my value but I already had prioritized fighting against global hunger as my primary value. Although I did not felt happy for eating non vegetarian but I did not felt guilty of wasting food.

Now I’ll examine the lie of my friend on ethical grounds. As I was a new vegetarian and previously I had been a hardcore meat eater. My friend thought that I should eat meat some meat to provide some protein to my body. He did it out of compassion otherwise he had nothing to do with me or my dietary requirement. He had prioritized compassion than speaking truth. Although I did not felt happy with his this act but neither did I felt angry because I could understand his kind motive. If I was in his shoes I would have prioritize to speak truth but I again say its our personal choice and I should not make judgement on him.

All I want to say is that sometime we should sit down and write down or remind ourself personal values and prioritize them. For example once I decided that helping others will be my prime value. Speaking truth is also my basic value but it happened many times that I had to lie to help others. I did not mean that I had been telling on major issue but mostly on smaller issues and I decided it on situational basis. Based on my personal experience I would suggest that sitting down and writing few personal values is a very help activity and solves many problems.

Little appreciation can mean a lot

I was in this pub, a young man was singing. The people in pub were talking loudly and no one was paying attention to this young artist who was supporting a renowned band of Nottingham. While buying a drink from the bar, a song hit my hear ear and the lyrics sounded very intelligent.
I am a sort of person who appreciate the new artists, less famous artists and street¬†buskers. After his performance, I went up to him and appreciated his talent and asked about YouTube channel. This young artist became very happy and with a sad voice he said “I thought no body was listening”. I had to lie a bit and I told him that I was listening, although I wasn’t paying much attention due to noise in the pub. He grabbed a CD of his songs and handed over to me for free.
After coming I listened to some of his song again in a quite environment. I really liked some of his song and could see his talent. I concluded that he was playing in a wrong environment and maybe in a wrong group of people or maybe he wasn’t able to capture the attention of audience.
Although I had to lie a bit but little words of appreciation does not costed me anything rather I felt happy that I was able to contribute to someone’s motivation. Appreciation can make a big difference. If we start incorporating words of appreciation and compassion in our daily routine then we can make some real change to someone.¬†Just imagine¬†how many young people get dishearten¬†from our cold behaviours and words. Everyone can worship rising sun but we forget to celebrate new moon.

Create your own Mongolian Religion

The phenomenon of picking up of religious teaching and to blend with your own taste has been going on since centuries. This is exactly like going to a buffet and picking up ingredients to create a Mongolian dish of your own taste. Initially this was done by clergy, they used and abused Church to do whatever they want to do. Emergence of religious cults was also a by-product of this thinking.

Now in 21st century we have become smart enough to do this job by ourselves, we don’t need clergy and mullahs to do this job for us. Educated people are leaving clergy and Mullahs devastated but it’s not easy to break free from the web of these spiders. After all no one us bother to go back to scripture by ourselves. All what we do is to listen progressive scholars on contemporary issues and we start picking and choosing from teachings we like and build up a whole Mongolian dish for ourselves. But in the end if this does not work out the whole religion become distasteful. One advantage of Mongolian religion is that people believe whatever they want to believe and still they can be Muslims or Christians or whatever. This point can be understood from following video.

Clergy feel like loosing control over educated people and are worried by this phenomenon. This is a good phenomenon to one extent, people can think, reason and can make their own judgement about religious rituals and scripture. But on the other hand this phenomenon can be equally dangerous. Everyone take on the task of being a scholar or spokes person of God and create an amalgam of religious teachings.

Why not to do so after all religions are open to interpretation and this has been going on centuries. But beware to choose the ingredients you might end up throwing your own master piece into food waste bin. I haven’t concluded anything, I leave it to my blog readers to decide for themselves if creating Mongolian religion is workable and good thing or a mistake.